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Choosing Funeral Flowers

A Guide to Funeral Flower Etiquette
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Flowers are a traditional way to pay tribute to the deceased, however, some of us
hesitate to send flowers because we are unsure of the proper etiquette. We hope this short guide will help you.

Here are some things to consider when choosing funeral flowers for a loved one.

Your relationship to the deceased

Your relationship to the deceased will determine what type of funeral tribute is more appropriate to send. Typically funeral etiquette dictates that:

Flowers for the casket are chosen by the immediate family.

Other relatives and close friends have a wide range of options and may choose from wreaths, hearts, cushions or custom tributes to honour the personality of the deceased.

Friends and colleagues normally choose a spray or sheaf arrangement..


Funeral etiquette varies from faith to faith. What may be appropriate in one culture may not be in another.

To avoid unintentional upset it is important to be sensitive to the faith of the deceased and their family before ordering funeral flowers.

As a guide


All types of flower arrangements are welcome


Although most floral arrangements are accepted, garlands are more commonly worn at a Hindu funeral.


It is not customary to send flowers to a Jewish funeral or to the family home during shiva (the first 7 days following the funeral).


Most flowers are appropriate but avoid tributes in the shape of a cross.


It is considered good etiquette to seek consent from family members before sending flowers to an Islamic funeral.

Protestant Christian

All types of flower arrangements are welcome..

The families wishes

Some families will ask for charitable donations instead of flowers. This will usually be stated in any obituary notices or funeral announcements that appear in your local newspaper. If this is the case then it is good etiquette to follow the family’s wishes.

“In Lieu of Flowers”

When “in lieu of flowers, please…” or “contributions to …. would be appreciated” appear in an obituary, you can still send flowers, but you should also follow the family’s wishes and choose the contribution as well.


If you need help or general advice our team of experienced florists are here to help. We can talk you through your options and answer all of your questions. 

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Denise McCormack

Denise McCormack

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About Me

Hi I am Denise, the owner of Pink & Perfect, an independent florists and gift shop based in Maidenhead Berkshire. 

I love running my shop in my home town, and being able to share my love of flowers with all my friends, family and neighbours.  

I have always enjoyed creating with flowers and after qualifying as a florist, some years ago now, I have been very fortunate to have been able to make it my career.  

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